Oct 21, 2019
This week’s episode is all about How to Have Confidence Part 2. During this episode we are going to deep dive into how when we break agreements with ourselves we are eroding our confidence layer by layer. Learn the key questions to ask yourself to ensure you are saying yes to what you can commit too and how to restore your confidence when promises are broken.
Hosts:
Nick and Kisma
03:35 - BEFORE WE DIVE IN -
Addiction
Alcohol abuse
and addiction run rampant in our world. Often times it is happening
behind closed doors and although we know something is not what it
should be we tend to dismiss it. But in the end we know there is
really something going on… if this sounds like you, reach out, Nick
would love to have a conversation. hello@illuminationpodcast.com
- Nick
04:22 - Let’s Get Started
“Today we're talking about what we're doing to
ourselves and how we are eroding our own confidence. We are
getting out of integrity with self, we're telling little lies to
self, things that you might not even be aware of. But it
definitely, over time, erodes your confidence.” This lack of
integrity is the kingpin to our confidence and our
productivity!
- Nick
05:17 - Broken Promises
How many times have you set an alarm to get up
at a specific time, then hit snooze when it goes off? You had a
full list of things you desired to do, but based on when you
actually got up items had to fall off the todo list. So now
you have started your day with a broken promise to
yourself.
- Nick
06:44 - The Escalation
So you make an agreement with yourself to get
up a specific time and you don’t. One promise broken. But
likely that specific time had a specific task assigned to it such
as to walk or move, now you have broken two promises to yourself
before you have even meditated, connected with someone or set your
intention for the day.
- KISMA
09:11 - More examples
Just like that snooze button, breaking your
word to yourself can show up in food, drinking alcohol, eating
sugar. Oh, it's five o'clock I really want sugar. I think I'm going
to have that piece of candy. Or I'm not going to drink. Oh, but
it's like 8:00 PM a glass of wine would be amazing. “However,
somewhere before that moment was a decision about being a better
version of self, whether it's for health or productivity or sleep.
It was like, I am not going to do this, and then we give in and we
do it. So we break promises to ourselves. It's
those little ones that matter, little ones that add
up.”
- KISMA
11:54 - Different Iteration of Self
What does success look like to you? If you
expect yourself to be up at 5:30 every morning because that is what
you ‘think’ success looks like, but you are simply not a morning
person, what do you do? In our Ultimate Life Tool - we work
through what looks like success based on who you are (grab a copy
by emailing hello@illuminationpodcast.com)..
It’s a great tool.
“That successful person, they're up at 5:00 AM they're at the gym, then they’re off into their life and people think, well, in order to be successful, I have to do that.” what if that isn’t YOUR success formula? You could be saying YES to something that isn’t a fit for you…
- KISMA
13:24 - Know Yourself / Your Truths
When you really get to know self, you have to
ask why do you break the agreements with yourself, as innocuous as
you think they might be? What is it that is making you stop and not
do exactly what you say you're going to do? This is the
important piece! Why do I not think I'm not worthy enough to hold
the agreement? Or am I just in this habitual pattern of not holding
agreements? Who do you want to be in the world to yourself? Do you
want to be telling truths? These are vital questions to
unravel the answers to when it comes to build a solid foundation
around your confidence.
- KISMA
17:50 More Impactful than You Think
A lot of people do really well in jobs because
they've got somebody holding their feet to the fire. They have
somebody to be accountable to. Unfortunately, often when these
people leave that very accountable job to become an entrepreneur
they just fall off into the abyss because there's nobody holding
their feet to the fire. They never built that muscle for
themselves. It's very disempowering because then as you erode
that confidence, especially if you're wanting to have more
independence, more empowerment in your own life, you chip away at
and it's gonna send you right back into that old pattern. You're
going to want somebody else to tell you what to do.
- Nick
21:31 - The solutions
For all the ways we break promises to
ourselves, whether it's food, whether it's alcohol, whether it's
exercise, whether it's conversations, whether it's business
building, my GoTo is complete awareness. It's like lean back for
two weeks, slow down, go deep and have that awareness throughout
your day. So you’re awareness is key always. We've got to see where
we're out of integrity, where we're breaking agreements, and then
it's easier to catch...
- KISMA