Oct 15, 2019
This week’s episode is all about How to Have Confidence. In part 1 of this 2-part series, there are three main areas that will really trip people up when standing in their own personal confidence; Specific things that can put a chink in our armor without even realizing what is happening. You’ll also discover some simple hacks to regain your confidence and ground yourself in your truth.
Hosts:
Nick and Kisma
(6:15) - Opening the Yoga
Studio
I have a great
example story. When I opened my yoga studio, I didn't really know
what I was doing. I was fresh out of being a musician and the
economy was going down and people told me all the time, you're
crazy…
-KISMA
(07:07) - Derailing Stories
There are moments where we have to decide, “I'm
not taking on other people's fears and stories.” That's on us yet
it happens after we're aware that people around us are saying
things, doing things and repeating these stories and beliefs of
theirs. You know, we have to have a pulse on it so that we can
actually say, Nope, not taking it on. - KISMA
(08:25) - Projected Fears
Other people, they'll draw into their own lack
of confidence, their own insecurities, and start to project that on
us. - KISMA
(08:56) - Doubts
Doubts will show up a lot of times in family.
It will also show up just all around you and friends. Well-meaning
friends and coworkers, that's their stuff. So they built the
story around it. But in there somewhere all of their doubts are
wound up in it. - Nick
(09:27) You Decide
This is not about blaming anybody else. It's
just about awareness because ultimately it's on us. It really is.
And people have a right to have their doubts. Like if they're going
to doubt, okay, they're going to doubt. The thing is do we want to
take that on? And those stories and those doubts will become ours…
- KISMA
(13:10) The Result of
Self-Doubt
So
energetically what's happening in your head is a whole layer of fog
that's going to cloud your judgment, and that will disconnect you
from what's true for you and being really dropped in and it'll make
you feel ungrounded. - Nick
(15:57) Comparison
The third thing is comparison, and this is the
biggest one; This is really one that traps people. I think
with comparison people look at it a lot of times as a positive
thing because they think, this is what's gonna make me better, yet
the opposite is true. - Nick
(21:38) Ungrounded
When we get ungrounded, it's easier to take on
doubts. It's easier to take on stories and it's way easier to
compare. Your defenses are down.
(21:52) Get Grounded Hack
When we talk about getting grounded is
basically getting back in your body and getting your brain and your
body actually talking again. So one of the best things that you can
do is this…
Put the tip of the tongue at the roof of the mouth and take some
deep breaths through the nose, in and out, through the nose. The
pattern would be in for six, hold for three, out for six, hold for
three. Repeat for 3-7 rounds.